Something has shifted. Until recently, when my husband Tim and I were talking about philosophical subjects about life, I at times could sense myself getting edgy. Tim is very good at challenging the status quo and will often question what I or others are saying! It often got my bristles up. The old ego raised its ugly head and I would feel an unease within me. We would get at one another in a ‘polite’ way, yet hiding underneath my manners, my thoughts were far from kind.
Recently, I listened to a webinar that my friend Kimberley Hare had organised. To begin with, I heard something that rocked my boat a bit. I sensed my ego peaking up again. However, the more I listened and reflected, I found that a shift happened effortlessly. What an enriching conversation. What was being shared is that instead of us all being separate – seven billion people living seven billion separate lives – we are one entity. I listened further.
If we think about our own body, it seems that we are separate. I am Lindsey and you are you. However, we know that there are shed loads of living organisms inside of us. In a recent study at the Weizmann Institute in Israel, the scientists estimated that there are about 30 to 50 trillion bacterial cells in each of us. And that’s not even including viruses that may be lurking in us.
Within our own bodies, we want these cells to all work together collaboratively, in harmony. If any are disrupted we become sick. In fact, you could even turn this on its head, that these microbiomes inhabit our bodies and want to keep us well so that they live in a perfect world! If they start to fight with one another in us, then chaos will be created in our bodies.
So what if we are within the universe as one entity? Wouldn’t we want to keep our planet well so we live in a perfect world? If so, wouldn’t we treat each human with respect as they are part of the same entity? They may be different to us, however, each one has a purpose for this “body”.
Just recently we were chatting to a lady after an Art event and she started talking in a very homophobic why. She saw gays as being broken. As she was a Christian, I talked her language and reminded her that Jesus said that we are all children of God and we are as one. What if she appreciated this within her heart? What if we all did?
What I have realised over the last couple of years is that the innocent misunderstanding that our experience comes from outside of us rather than from within, causes so much suffering. How we experience life is not from other people who are different to us and think differently; it’s not the weather – a black cloud cannot possibly affect our neuron pathways and make us feel grumpy; it is not money or our jobs, they are neutral, it is how we perceive them and so on. As humans, we only ever work one way, from within.
What if we are not separate? What if we are all of one? Because we all have the power of thought, this can cause us to feel separate. Yet beyond our separate selves, what if the energy connecting us is infinite, indestructible, pure, free, and of love, joy and happiness? What if we imagined this to be true for just one moment? Perhaps then we would realise that we don’t need to judge, be anxious, annoyed, angry or worry? If we are infinite then what would there be to be worried about? What a different world (or seven billion worlds) that would be. A world of understanding, empathy, connecting at a deep level with the aim to live in a harmonious world.
Through discussing and allowing this to settle, I know that I don’t need to ‘be right’. I don’t need to judge. When Tim and I are talking about philosophical subjects now, I have noticed that my body feels aligned and calm. Our conversations flow. Tim still challenges the status quo, yet this allows me to consider what I am saying, to go deeper and explain more clearly and calmly. What a difference.
There is so much that we just don’t know. Scientists are in a quandary whether dark matter exists, I haven’t a clue whether we are separate or not! However, I understand that energy cannot be created or destroyed – so when we die, the energy within us lives on in a different form. What if we are love, joy, happiness? What if we presume this to be true? The effect on these seven billion separate bodies/worlds would be beautiful.
I am Lindsey Reed, an experienced International Confidence Coach, Trainer and Author. My aim is for us all to have a joyful, fulfilled life and I enable people to remember who they really are and re-ignite their lives with confidence. While I am travelling around the world, I am coaching clients around the world via the internet. If you would like to work with me, send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org so that we can connect.
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