Are you good enough at thinking of the negatives about yourself and concentrating on these instead of concentrating on your strengths? Perhaps you even try and convince others so that if they say you’re not good enough – at least you’ll be right!
Many people from all walks of life that I have worked with have felt that they are not good enough. This is a self-belief that they have held true for many years – usually stemming from a childhood interpretation of things that they heard or saw.
Recently I went to a farewell reunion as a company branch that I set up in 2000 sadly closed down this year. It was lovely to meet up with old friends and reminisce; hear their news and their plans for the future. It also made me think back to my time there…..What a different person I was then!
Despite regular promotions, getting up the corporate ladder – I used to think I was not good enough. I was so self-critical and overly anxious. In fact a dear friend of mine nearly bought me a T-shirt that said “I thrive on stress!”
If only I had known about coaching earlier in my career – all that energy I wasted on self-criticism could have been so much better utilised.
The good news is that we ARE good enough.
And how about you? Do you relate to anything that I went through? Do you criticise yourself? Are you always in a state of anxiety – not able to sleep – spending your energy on worrying? Feeling not good enough?
What if you realised that you were good enough? What if you were content being you? What if you looked at solving problems curiously and creatively rather than worryingly – how would that be for you?
Often we focus on what we don’t want – there can be a sense of discontentment. I wonder if you have considered what you do want and how you want to be? For many of my clients, when they realise what they do want and realise that they can be that right now – it has been a huge turning point. Once they let go of their old self-belief – the feeling of not being good enough disappears.
It can be difficult looking at ourselves objectively – we get stuck in our own story. So if you would like support on your journey – someone to question your thought process, your perception of yourself, someone to enable you to realise that you are good enough, then maybe you would like to contact me.
Lindsey Reed is an experienced confidence coach who specialises in enabling people to have more confidence in their lives. If you experience times of low self-esteem, self doubt and lacking in confidence, email Lindsey@glows-coaching.co.uk or call 01832 280168 to see how your personal and working life can be improved.