When coaching, be it building confidence and self esteem, or enabling people to move into their next career path, I find that some clients struggle to identify their achievements – they think that they are “just ordinary” and haven’t done anything of use. When we explore deeper – it is amazing what they have achieved: people fund raising tirelessly for great causes, making others feel happy, overcoming adversity, making efficiency savings and the list goes on…and on….and on.
When my clients realise that they are allowed to be proud of their achievements – they seem to grow another couple of inches – it’s fantastic.
Often we forget to stop and reflect on our achievements. We forget to be proud of our own successes and we, too often, hide our light under a bushel. For what purpose?
A friend of mine recently shared with me that his brother has told him to “take his lampshade off his head”. He was playing small and not using his wonderful talents.
As a child I would create and put on little shows as I enjoyed making people laugh. Sadly I would hear “stop showing off Lindsey”. This made me avoid talking in public and I believed that I had nothing to offer. A few years back I took my own lampshade off my head and now thoroughly enjoy using my talents; coaching and run workshops, getting great results and yes I am grateful and proud of this.
That’s the thing – we don’t need to parp on about how wonderful we are and how fantastic we are – that’s not what it’s about. It’s about recognising your own accomplishments and being grateful and proud. This can really aid with growing your inner confidence.
So if you are wearing a lampshade on your head, see what it’s like to take it off, and be proud and grateful of your wonderfulness.
This reminds me of Marianne Williamson’s quote from A Return to Love:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
And I would like to share with you something that I am proud of. Recently I won the “Goodwin Cup” Click here to find out what I did to get this prestigious prize!