…may break my bones, but words will never hurt me… yeah right!
How many times have you heard the saying “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”? What a load of rubbish! Of course, sticks and stones can physically cause you pain, but the pain that names can cause cuts far more deeply.
I often work with clients in my workshops and 1-to-1s who want to overcome stumbling blocks. Many of them find that the things holding them back are identities picked up from other people when they were younger and at a time when they were vulnerable. Being told “you’re lazy” or “you’re stupid” can be hugely damaging and continue in later life if not dealt with. Remember, sticks and stones may break our bones (lucky we have NHS) but names can really hurt us!
If you are a parent or teacher, be careful about what you say to kids as it can really harm them. If they are being lazy, then don’t call them lazy. Instead, say “your behaviour is lazy”. That way, they don’t carry that as an identity, instead it was just a way they once behaved. This subtle change in language can make a huge difference, and ensure that children grow up with a positive identity rather than an unnecessarily negative one.
If you can relate to this issue of having a negative identity about yourself that is dragging you down and it’s the right time now for you to get rid of this so that you can feel so much better about yourself, then give me a call on 01832 280168.