How Intelligent Are You?

site admin — Mon, 20 Feb 2012 23:08:16 +0000

Lindsey’s Lightbulb Moments [6:12 mins]

What’s your perception of people’s Education levels? If you met someone with no qualifications, would you deem them unintelligent? Or perhaps you yourself don’t have a string of qualifications. Does it bother you and affect your Confidence level? I have met a number of people where the school system just didn’t work for them and they left school with minimal qualifications. However each one of them had amazing abilities and strengths such as knocking up a gastronomical meal from nothing; having fantastic people skills; designing and creating works of art; teaching themselves how to play a musical instrument proficiently; building a successful business etc etc

Many people think that intelligence is based on IQ, however is this an accurate measure of intelligence? When I was at school many moons ago, if you were gifted at maths or english then you were labelled as intelligent – what about being gifted at sport, art, nature, music? – aren’t these as equal? Isn’t David Beckham as intelligent as Einstein – just in a different way?

This week’s video is about perception of Intelligence including Howard Gardner’s Multiple Intelligences. Here is a link to a Multiple Intelligence diagram so that you can calculate your own intelligence level

Overcoming Conflict

site admin — Mon, 13 Feb 2012 22:58:46 +0000

Lindsey’s Lightbulb Moments – Overcoming Conflict [5:23 mins]

One of the common issues that knocks a number of my clients’ confidence levels is having difficult relationships with others; be it family members, business associates or work colleagues. This week’s short video is about a conflict issue that one of my clients faced and how, through coaching, he was able to change his persepective on the issue. He kindly has allowed me to share this, plus gave me this lovely testimonial:

“Before my coaching session with Lindsey I felt hampered by negative emotions that were impeding progress in my creative and fulfilling – but precarious – field of business. Lindsey enabled me to see a very different perspective of my issue and I now no longer feel anger and upset. Instead I am galvanised by the power of responsibility to show everyone how much better and happier I am now. A very constructive hour of coaching”

So do you have any conflicts with people? And if you could really imagine that you could step into their shoes and seek to understand them – what would you discover?

Overcoming Failure

site admin — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 23:16:30 +0000

Lindsey’s Lightbulb Moments – Overcoming Failure [4:49mins]

So often the fear of failure can stop us from moving forward and achieving in our career or other areas of our lives. And if we do fail and then label ourselves as failures, it can make us feel bitter, angry, and knock our confidence levels down. We can hold on to this negative feeling for years.

If we look at the lives of many successful people such as Henry Ford, Thomas Edison, Sir Richard Branson – they have all experienced failings – however this didn’t hold them back – they persevered, learned and improved.

And look at our own early lives. When we learned to walk for the first time, the majorty of us, if not all, failed to walk straight away – we fell, hurt ourselves, bruised our knees, perhaps knocked our heads - we didn’t decide to give up – we tried, persevered and succeeded - we hadn’t learned the stigma of failure.

So rather than perceive failure as something negative – how can we redefine it to lessen the emotional impact? One of the presuppositions of Neuro Linguistic Programming is that “There is no failure, just feedback” – and here’s the clue as to our redefinition. I hope you enjoy this week’s Lightbulb moment – please do add your own comments and experience to this week’s video blog.

When did you last invest in yourself?

site admin — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 21:07:45 +0000

Lindsey’s Lightbulb Moments – invest in yourself

25 years in the Corporate sector and a number of those as a Senior Manager – how many books do you think I read for personal or professional development? ….One! And that was because it was a requirement for a Leadership course I was attending. Since 2005 when I set up my own business that I am passionate about – how many books have I read? 100s plus investing in many courses – it’s wonderful to learn.

Investing in Personal Development really is life changing – rather than vegetating and stagnating, personal development helps you to become stronger, and I’m not talking about the “Personal Development Plans” within a business context for your personal records – I mean real Personal Development, where you discover why you do what you want to do, discover your own blocks and barriers and smash these down so that you live your life to the full, develope your won emotional intellect, make plans that are innovative and exciting and take action….

In this week’s video I have a guest – someone who I have known briefly for a few years and now have the immense pleasure of collaborating with him. Roy Leighton is the co-author of 101 Days to Make a Change Book which I recommmend as a Personal MOT for all of us. Read more about the 101 Days to Make a Change and invest in your own life – click here

It couldn’t be done..could it?

site admin — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 10:52:38 +0000

Lindsey’s Lightbulb Moments – It couldn’t be done…could it? [4:13 mins]

Are people, or even you, saying to you “It couldn’t be done”. What if it could? What is stopping you? It doesn’t matter if we have all the skills and knowledge to acheive a goal, if we don’t have the confidence and right attitude then we won’t succeed. What do you need to do so that you can “do it”?

In the last week I have had 3 occassions where poetry has featured – which is quite unusual for me. On Sunday I finished reading a great book – “Botty’s Rules” by Nigel Botterill where at the end of the book he shares a poem by Edgar Guest and I would like now to share this with you (watch the video below). I also decided to write my own verse at the end and hope you enjoy it.

The message for today is “Do it!” and if any anxiety, fear or lack of confidence is blocking your success, then have a look at our highly successful Confidence Workshop or Home Study Programme – and let this be your first action towards your future success and confidence.

Poetry is a wonderful way to tap into your own resourcefullness, I have since used the technique I learnt at my coaching group of using poetry to move a client on from a feeling of stuckness with great results.

If you would like to read the Poem “It couldn’t be done” by Edgar Guest- then contact me on lindsey@glows-coaching.co.uk

Confidence is learnable!

site admin — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 23:03:39 +0000

Lindsey’s Lightbulb Moments – Confidence is learnable! (3:13 mins video)

Do you think we are born with Confidence? If yes – then does that mean that if we don’t have Confidence then there’s no hope? Of course not -

Confidence is a mindset and a skill that can be learned – whatever your age. I have worked with many clients to enable them to learn both practical skills to behave more Confident as well as transforming their mindset so they have beliefs and thoughts allowing them to feel Confident.

Personally, I don’t think we are born with Confidence – it’s a mindset and a skill that can be learned and having worked with 100s of clients both on a 1:2:1 basis and on the Confidence Workshops , it’s a privilege to be part of the change in many people:

‘Thank you Lindsey for an absolutely fantastic day at your Confidence workshop. I was amazed at how much you managed to pack into one day and how much I learned from the mix of information, strategies, discussion and of course the exercises, which were thought provoking and such fun. I had already taken steps towards improving my confidence – after just one coaching session with you, where you helped me to identify how to break down the barriers and obstacles preventing me from achieving my goals. The workshop has further boosted my confidence levels and I will practice the techniques and strategies to continue the journey to my new confident self.’ JR Spalding

Now Plan 2012!

site admin — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 21:15:58 +0000

Lindsey’s Lighbulb Moments – Planning 2012

This week’s video stemmed from a conversation with a friend of mine when discussing New Year Resolutions and why they don’t work. My friend said that January is a time to rest and plan the remainder of the year – a bit like our Winter season, where many of the plants are resting and building up energy for new growth in Spring. I tend to agree with her – these long dark nights and short days, I don’t want to take lots of action and like to curl up, reflect on the past year, think what I want to achieve for this year and then plan. As a former Project Manager within the Corporate world, I learned to plan rather than jump straight in – it saves time and energy in the long run. In this week’s video, I share with you a tip on how to plan and you will also see a way of daily reminding yourself of what you want to achieve……..spotted it?

And if you want to Make a Change this year – click here (after watching the video!)

Ensure a Great 2012

site admin — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 22:09:55 +0000

Welcome to Lindsey’s Lightbulb Moments – Ensure a Great 2012!

Would you like to ensure that you have a great 2012? You may be happy to know that it’s not about New Year Resolutions. Having reached a few weeks into January each year and discovering that yet again, I hadn’t achieved my Resolution, I decided to come up with an alternative. For the last few years I’ve found that my alternative has worked so much better for me. So this year I thought I’d share it with you.

Each year I review my values – what is important for me in my life. (Our values rarely change – unless we experience a life changing event – however it is always good to review and prioritise).

Once reviewed, I then rate these from 1 (low) to 10 (high) and if any are lower than 9, then I decide what I want to do to ensure that I improve my rating so I have more of this value in my life.

In this week’s video (longer than normal), I describe how you can discover your own values. Your values are the foundation of your character; things which you believe are important; the things which motivate you; the things that you give priority to and determine how you make decisions.

Many people are not consciously aware of their own values and these do have a big effect on us and our lives. If our values are missing from our lives, life can be very frustrating – for example, when I worked in the Corporate sector, due to a take-over, my independence was diminished, causing me to (thankfully) change my career-path. It’s also important to understand that we can unknowingly take on board others’ values, especially from childhood, and this can lead to stress and frustration in our lives.

You may find that there are many lists of values on the internet that you can trawl through. However, having worked with many clients to discover their values, it is more beneficial to identify your own words - you will resonate with them more, rather than choosing from a list.

Explicitly identifying your own values can often be very revealing and may give you quite an insight into what makes you tick . By living life aligned to your own values really does ensure that you have a great year.

Achieving Goals

site admin — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 07:57:56 +0000

Lindsey’s Light Bulb Moments – Achieving Goals [2:50mins]

This week’s video is about using your own past experience to achieve a new goal. So often people forget that they already have the resources in themselves to achieve a goal / project / overcome a challenge. If you have a goal that you want to achieve, look back and find a similar experience – how did you achieve that? What did you do well, what could have worked better? Take all that learning and use it in your new challenge. Enjoy!

Grab Hold of Life

site admin — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 22:21:30 +0000

Lindsey’s Light Bulb Moments – Grab hold of Life [1:42 mins]

This week’s video is at a fairly unusual and different location. I am sitting at my friend’s new home. She has gone through a lot of change recently and her attitude to this change has really inspired me. She has very graciously allowed me to share a little bit of her story and I hope this also inspires you. A nice short, but sweet video this week. Talking of inspiration, we are coming close to another year and you may be starting to think about what 2012 holds for you. Perhaps you want to make a change in 2012…if so, find out how you can do this and click here (after watching the video!)